Thursday, February 25, 2010

Family Pictures.

Hello. I have decided to take the plunge and join the blogging world. It is not that I haven't had anything to say before now, not at all. As anyone who knows me, knows I always have plenty to say about 'things'.

I am married and the mom of 4. All of the kids are grown up now. Time flies so fast. You have your kids and boom they are all over 18. My oldest is almost 24, the next one is 22, the third one will be 20 tomorrow and my youngest just turned 18.

I often think about family. It is the most important thing there is to me. I love looking at old pictures of family. It makes me happy and sad at the same time. It is great to remember the old times, to look at the faces of the people most dear to you. At the same time it is sad to see many of those faces that now only exist in those precious photographs.

I want you to look at your family. Is it typical? Are you able to have a family picture taken? Do you eat in the same room, at the same table? At Christmas time do you all sit together and open presents? Do you take family vacations? Do you go out to eat together?

If you do, do you know how lucky you are?

I don't have a typical family. My second child, my second son was born with a disability. A communication disorder. He didn't fit the criteria for autism, although many think that is what he has. At any rate, I could write a whole book on our 'adventures', if you will, and maybe some day, I will. Right now, I am talking about those family pictures.

We had one. Once. It wasn't easy. My son, since he was two has reacted to his dad's cough. For TWENTY years. When he was younger, he would throw himself down and sob, it bothered him so much. As the years progressed, he would react to others, including his older brother, and sometimes, even me.

The consequences on our family have been great. He will no longer sit at a table for dinner with them. He chooses to eat, alone, in his room. He will no longer come out and open presents with us at Christmas time, which breaks my heart, truly. For a long time, he would come out, and keep his ears plugged, now he won't even do that. We can never all be in the same vehicle, go out to eat together , take a vacation, or anything that typical families do. We do not have a current family picture.

So if you do have a typical family, consider how lucky you are!

I truly hope you have that family picture that you can treasure always. I do, as you can see
and it is our only one..but a newer one? I only wish that I did!

That, my friends is what is on my mind right now.


  1. Joy, wow! that's my first thought on all of this. Isn't it interesting to realize how we take such simple things for granted. You are an amazing woman. you have had so many challenges to face that others can't even fathom. Please continue to share your life with others. You do it so well. It helps everyone, you to get the words out, us to read them and reflect on our own lives. Wow, I say it again... thanks to you.

  2. Hey, Welcome! My blog will be one year old next week. I'm loving every minute of it....Welcome to the blogging world. I'm now a blog follower.